So, I gave birth to my still born baby girl, two days ago.. I need serious help.?
I’m 16, and gave birth to the most beautiful little girl you will ever see; She was perfect; but I couldn’t take her home with me; Alyssa was a still born and, having gone through a traumatic pregnancy i’m crushed. I ended up with a pelvic condition, which made it extremely painful to walk, but was determined to keep her, because she’s my baby, and I had to protect her, no matter what that meant for me; A good day or so before labour kicked in, Alyssa stopped moving, and kicking, I figured that, She’s so big she had no room to move, and she was just getting ready to be born, but, when the used the fetal doppler to find her heart beat, they couldn’t, then they did an ultrasound and various other procedure’s before they finally told me that my little girl had lost her life; I then went through 29 hours of labour without pain relief before i delivered my little angel; She was so beautiful, and so perfect, I should have been taking her home, but instead of leaving with my little girl, I left with a funeral directors contact information; truth is, although i’m mature for my age, i’m still 16, and she was still my baby, and i miss her so much, every night so far i’ve cried myself to sleep, i even attempted suicide yesterday, I need help, and I need to give my little girl the send off she deserves, but no one seems to understand, and no one wants to try to. is there anyone out there who’s bin through the same, or a similar experience? i really need some advice, where to go from here, someone to talk to i guess..
Thanks guys
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My story is different but I still feel so bad. My dad died last year 2 days before my birthday. I’m 15 now. I miss him so much. I have a girlfriend and she had a baby and the dad left her so now I’m stepping up to be this baby’s dad because I know what it’s like to live without a dad and that would be bad for her. If you wanna talk email me trevor.chamber@yahoo.com
I am so sorry for you loss. Your age doesn’t matter, this would be hard for any mom of any age. You need someone to talk to. Look up the mental health clinic in your area, they will have someone to talk to you, or even someone at your church if you have one.
My bestfriend buried 3 of her daughters for some reason her babies wouldn’t survive she would go the full term. I’m so sorry this has happened to u but I can tell u what she dis to remember them. I’m not sure if ur in to this but she tattooed their names date of birth and death her little angels. See I believe everything happens for a reason I’m just not sure y. I like to believe she was sent to heaven to protect you from future events to come to u. Try making a little scrap book in her memory so when u have other kids u can tell them about their big sister. Even tho it was a short time she’s still yours remember that. Your still a mother try being a great one for her still even tho she’s not with u. May god bless u! And may Alyssas memory last forever!
go and try to tlk to a phsycatrist my sister had a miscariage at 8 months it was rough on her and still is it’s been over a year now but she talked to somebody and got help.
You’re an amazing person to go through all those months carrying a child at 16 and be willing to be such a good mother. You couldn’t really do anything about the situation, but just remember your baby girl will still always be your baby girl. Because she’ll stay in your heart forever and you will never forget her (: You will be ok, and im sorry for you that no-one understands and I hope you get along alright.
Sorry for your loss _x
Call your midwife NOW and ask for help. I’m startled you weren’t given contact information for support groups in the hospital.
I’m sorry for your loss.